While I work with and treat all types of anxiety, perfectionism is my area of specialty…
Do you find yourself spending 30 minutes writing and rewriting an email that is a few sentences long? Have you ever perceived a couple of wrong answers on a test as being a sign of your failure? Do you find you constantly compare yourself to others and their accomplishments? Do you worry so much about others’ opinions of you that it stops you in your tracks? Are you a procrastinator?
Perfectionism shows up in all forms and fashions. It is rooted in anxiety, and it can lead to other personal struggles such as difficulty coping with change, dissatisfaction with many areas of your life, stress, depression, and other mental health issues such as eating disorders, substance abuse, and even self-harm behavior.
People who struggle with perfectionist tendencies often carry deep shame that convinces them they are not good enough. Perfectionism persuades them “if I can just ..... well enough, I can avoid ..... (hurt, humiliation, judgment, shame, pain).” In reality, perfectionism boxes you in. It defines the boundaries and limits of your success, such that you end up losing sight of your goals, values, and yourself. It continually raises the bar, leaving you feeling that you are still not good enough.
Who struggles with perfectionism? Anyone! However, there are certain types of people and career fields where this behavior shows up the most…
Artists and performers
YOU ARE ENOUGH! Perfect can only exist in everything that is imperfect. There is no other way life can be except for how it is … all the flaws, all the messiness, all hurt and pain. ALL OF IT is what makes it and you so perfect. I can help you look for the beauty before you see the mess. I can help you learn to have to a more nurturing, understanding, accepting, compassionate relationship with yourself so you can more fully live your life with intention and purpose.
If perfectionist behavior and ideals are taking over your life, there is another way. These behaviors can be changed. Contact me for a free consultation to get started.
“Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgement, and shame.”